top of page

Welcome to Heart Connection Dogs Blog

This is where I share insightful articles, tips, and stories about holistic dog training, behaviour and care. Join us in exploring the wonderful world of understanding and connecting with our canine companions.

Latest Articles

# What Dogs Teach us About  Life

What Can Resource Guarding Teach Us
09:27
We CAN'T change our dogs behaviour. Are we missing the point?
10:14

We CAN'T change our dogs behaviour. Are we missing the point?

"None, but ourselves can free our minds." ~ Bob Marley ### Embracing a New Perspective: We Can’t Change Our Dogs' Behaviour, and That’s Okay Hello everyone, Today, I want to share a message that’s close to my heart, even if it might seem controversial to some. After many years as a trainer and behaviourist, combined with my personal journey of self-development and healing, I've come to a realization: we cannot change our dogs' behaviour. This might seem disheartening, but I believe it's a crucial insight for us to understand. **Understanding Behaviour** Our dogs' behaviours are shaped by a myriad of factors—genetics, diet, past experiences, and more. Just like us, they are complex beings, and their actions are deeply rooted in their individuality. We often seek solutions to change these behaviours, hoping to make our dogs calmer or more obedient, but this approach overlooks a fundamental truth. **The Key Insight** We cannot change other individuals. True change comes from within, whether in humans or dogs. We might influence our dogs, but we can’t force them to fit our model of what we believe they should be. Change must be an internal process, born from a place of readiness and willingness to grow. **Supporting Our Dogs** Instead of striving to change our dogs, we should focus on supporting them. This means creating an environment where they feel safe, nurtured, and confident enough to explore new behaviours. Our role is to provide guidance and comfort, allowing them to naturally develop and adapt. **A Journey of Mutual Growth** This shift in perspective offers a beautiful opportunity: to grow alongside our dogs. As they navigate their path of self-discovery, we too can embark on our own journey, learning, healing, and evolving together. It’s about embracing the process and finding joy in the shared experience. **Embracing Individual Greatness** Our goal should be to support our dogs in becoming their best selves—not according to our expectations, but in their own unique way. By nurturing their individuality, we help them thrive. **Join the Journey** If this resonates with you, I invite you to explore this new approach. Let’s embark on this journey of mutual self-discovery with our dogs, learning and growing together. Reach out if you’d like guidance on this path. Thank you for being here and for considering this perspective. Let's continue to support and nurture our beloved dogs, allowing them to teach us as we teach them. With gratitude, Sue x *************************************************************************** Get in touch: Email: heartconnectiondogs@gmail.com Website: https://www.heartconnectiondogs.com/ Personal Growth programme: Shift, Align & Shine Website: https://sue-mimm.my.canva.site/
Why do women find it more stressful walking their sensitive, easily triggered dogs, than men do?
09:58

Why do women find it more stressful walking their sensitive, easily triggered dogs, than men do?

For those of you who have male partners or husbands, you may have noticed that they often seem to handle walking our dogs with more ease and confidence. They appear less concerned or stressed about it. While this isn’t true for everyone, it does seem to be a general trend. But why is this the case? Let’s delve into some of the reasons behind this phenomenon. Physical Differences Firstly, one of the most obvious reasons is physical strength. Men are generally larger and stronger than women, which can make a significant difference in handling a reactive dog during a stressful situation. This physical advantage naturally boosts their self-confidence. They might feel more capable of controlling the dog, separating it from other dogs if necessary, or even protecting themselves from potential bites. This confidence can reduce their stress levels compared to women, who might worry more about being overpowered by their dogs. Biological and Vision Differences Another fascinating factor is the difference in vision. Studies have shown that men typically have a wider peripheral vision than women. Historically, this makes sense because men were often the protectors and needed to be on the lookout for dangers in the environment. Women, on the other hand, evolved to focus more on the finer details, such as the mimicry of their babies' faces and, by extension, their pets’ body language. Women’s vision tends to be more tunnel-focused, enabling them to pick up on subtle cues and signals from their dogs. This skill is incredibly valuable for nurturing and bonding but can become overwhelming when combined with the need to scan the environment for potential threats as well. Cognitive Load and Stress This dual focus creates a significant cognitive load for women. They are naturally attuned to their dogs’ body language, constantly monitoring their facial expressions, tail movements, and muscle tension. When walking a reactive dog, women also need to scan the environment for possible triggers, which adds an extra layer of stress. This combination of detailed attention to the dog and the broader environmental scan is not what women are biologically wired for, leading to increased stress levels. Self-Acceptance and Awareness Understanding these differences can lead to greater self-acceptance. If you’ve ever been told that you’re overreacting or dramatizing the situation, know that your stress is valid. The additional cognitive load you experience is real and significant. Recognizing this can help you be kinder to yourself and less critical of your reactions. Practical Strategies So, how can we use this information to our advantage? One approach is to practice using our peripheral vision in a more relaxed state. During walks, instead of just scanning for dangers, take moments to appreciate the beauty around you. Notice the trees, the flowers, the architecture. This practice can help shift your brain from a state of high alert to one of appreciation and calm. Personally, I’ve started integrating this into my walks. While keeping an eye out for potential triggers, I also make a point to admire the scenery. I’ve noticed the beautiful mountains, the way the clouds sit just below their peaks, and the fresh, crisp air. These moments of mindfulness help remind me that I am safe and can enjoy the environment around me, even while staying vigilant. Reflecting on Our Walks I invite you to try this on your next walk. Pay attention to where your focus lies and observe how your stress levels change when you consciously look for beauty and joy in your surroundings. You might find that this practice not only reduces your stress but also enhances your overall walking experience with your dog. Conclusion In conclusion, the added stress women experience when walking sensitive, reactive dogs is rooted in both physical and biological differences. By understanding these factors and practicing mindfulness, we can better manage our stress and enjoy our time with our dogs. I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences on this topic. How do you manage stress during walks? What techniques have you found helpful? *************************************************** My speciality is helping women with the emotional & mental stress of living with sensitive, easily triggered dogs. Visit my websites for more information on how I can support you: Shift, Align & Shine: https://sue-mimm.my.canva.site/ Heart Connection Dogs: https://www.heartconnectiondogs.com/

The Author

me charlie.jpg

Hello, my name is Sue

This blog is born from my journey of understanding dogs on a deeper level—beyond training techniques and into the heart of connection. Our relationship with our dogs is more than companionship; it’s a dance of mutual understanding and growth as we navigate the challenges of two species sharing our lives together in a modern world.
Through my experiences, I share many years of experience with living and working with dogs and their people, I share the insights that transform the way we live with our dogs, helping you build a relationship rooted in communication, harmony, and joy—so you and your dog can thrive together.

youtube thumbnail.png

The Ultimate Dog Mom's Wellbeing Planner &  Guided Journal

This is your all-in-one companion for managing your pup's well-being and embracing your role as a devoted dog mom. Designed with love and care, this comprehensive paperback planner is the perfect tool to organize and document everything related to your dog’s health, behaviour, and overall care.

bottom of page